Life can be really shitty. So shitty, that the word shitty is the biggest understatement of the year. We all deal with this in different ways. If you are struggling to deal with what life throws at you, please read. I hope this helps.
Mental health. Everyone has it. Everyone has mental health, just as everyone has physical. So why are we so silent? Why are we so accepting of any body part breaking apart from out brain. Why is there such a stigma and automated response when the topic of mental health gets brought up.
I have tried to write this countless of times, each time deleting it once I pressed full stop. Why? Because I am scared. There’s such a stigma and you don’t realise how bad it is until you’re on the receiving end. Mental health isn’t something to be ashamed of. I stand by that previous sentence, and only when I deleted this post for the ninth time did I realise just how hypocritical I am being. I am preaching about how we need to get mental health talked about, but I wont even explain why I feel so strongly about ending the stigma. Well, today is the day. So take a seat, grab a drink and listen, just listen.
I have no idea where to begin, or how to even word what I am about to say. For a large part of my life i’ve struggled with anxiety, and in a darker, lonelier time in my life; depression. Both of those words I cannot abide, and not for the reasons you may think. I don’t hate these words because of their meaning, no. I hate these words because of how people are so ignorant to their true meaning. These two words along with ‘bipolar’ and ‘OCD’ are health conditions, they are an illness, not an adjective to use when you like your room to be clean, or are having a bad day. Real people suffer these real illness. By using a health condition as a way to describe your day is silencing those who are truly suffering. I know it silenced me.
Whatever illness you are dealing with; mental or not. You are not it. And it is not you. It’s forever smaller than you, no matter how large it feels. It exists inside you, you do not exist inside it.
As crappy as mental illness is, and as horrible as it makes people feel. Good can come out of it. I wouldn’t be sat here writing a blog if it wasn’t for my mental illnesses. I wouldn’t have this great desire to help others if it wasn’t for my mental illnesses. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if it wasn’t for my mental illnesses. This is not a cry for help. This isn’t me wanting your sympathy. This is me, talking about a part of my life. A part of my life I shouldn’t be ashamed of. I don’t want you to read this and feel sorry, or feel like I am attention seeking. I am writing this to show I am proof, that life goes on. Good can come out of the bad.
Clouds with silver linings are still clouds but it’s quite therapeutic to know, that pleasure doesn’t just compensate pain but grows from it – Matt Haig
I think it is important to know that you are not alone, no matter how much it may feel like you are. You may feel like you have nobody, like the whole world is against you. It’s not, I can promise you that. Yes, people can be horrible. However there are also people out there who just want to help, who care about others wellbeing and will do everything in their power to make sure you’re okay. So many people suffer in silence but there are people out there who want to help, if you only give them the chance too.
If you feel like you have nobody to talk, please don’t hesitate in contacting anyone listed below.
Childline
ChildLine deals with any issue which causes distress or concern – bullying, child abuse, parental separation or divorce, pregnancy and substance misuse.
Website: www.childline.org.uk
Call: 0800 1111 (24 hours)
Samaritans
‘It doesn’t matter who you are, how you feel, or what has happened. If you feel that things are getting to you, get in touch.’
Web: www.samaritans.org
Call: 08457 90 90 90 * (UK)
Bullying UK
Get advice and support about bullying whenever you need it
Website: www.bullying.co.uk
Call: 0808 800 2222
Selfharm.co.uk
Selfharm.co.uk is a project dedicated to supporting young people impacted by self-harm, providing a safe space to talk, ask any questions and be honest about what’s going on in your life.
Website: www.selfharm.co.uk
Mind
Mind believes no one should have to face a mental health problem alone. We’ll listen, give you support and advice, and fight your corner.’
Website: www.mind.org.uk
Call: 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9.00am to 6.00pm)
Talk to Frank
Friendly, confidential drugs advice
Website: www.talktofrank.com
Call: 0800 77 66 00
Text: 82111
This is ABUSE
There are different forms of abuse, which you can find out about here, but if your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship. Find out more about the issue, have your say and seek help here.
Website: www.thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk
MindFull
MindFull is a brilliant new service for 11-17 year olds. It provides support, information and advice about mental health and emotional wellbeing
Website: www.mindfull.org
b-eat
B-eat provides helplines, online support and a network of UK-wide self-help groups to help adults and young people in the UK beat their eating disorders
Website: www.b-eat.co.uk
www.mypersonalbest.org.uk
Call: 08456 34 78 50
My Decision
A step by step guide for rape and sexual assault victims
Website: www.mydecision.co.uk