Relationships are hard. There is only two possible outcomes of every relationship; you either spend the rest of your lives together, or you break up. I know it’s probably not what you want to hear, but it’s true.
They say it can be “right person, wrong time” but that’s a load of rubbish, if it’s the right person, it won’t ever be the wrong time.
People grow, sometimes it’s together, sometimes it’s apart. The worst thing to do in these situations is to try and force something that was once there. It’s okay to admit that you’re both different people now and that you don’t make as good as a team as you once did. You were perfect for each other at that time and place, you’re allowed to outgrow someone. Be strong enough to let go, and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Accept the fact that you’ll grow apart from people you’ve had significant relationships with. Understand when someone no longer positively affects your life. Let them go. Don’t hinder your growth.
No relationship is ever a waste of your time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you don’t want.
I understand that some people use the saying “right person, wrong time” to comfort them, to bring them a piece of mind. However that can often leave you attached, it can leave you to not fully let go of the “could haves” “would haves” and maybe even “should haves” but instead of finding comfort in that, try this – clouds with silver linings are still clouds. But it is quite therapeutic to know that pleasure doesn’t just help compensate for pain, it can actually grow out of it.
If a relationship turns sour or the one of you isn’t ready; don’t blame yourself nor the other person, don’t blame timing or external factors. Don’t blame. Just grow.